Christmas stress—a term we all know too well. For me, it has always felt like a kind of first-world stress. When I lived in the bustling Randstad region of the Netherlands, December was a whirlwind of activity. I ran my own business, exhibited my artwork, and had countless holiday assignments, ranging from designing cards to painting large canvases of flowers or beloved pets. On top of that, I worked part-time at a well-known supermarket, where I either cooked seasonal dishes for customers or worked at the checkout. It was there that I truly witnessed Christmas stress: customers panicking over missing items, arguments over the last piece of meat, and sighs from people who admitted January would be financially tight because they had spent all their money in December.

I felt the pressure in my own life, too. December was packed with birthdays, Christmas parties, and endless social commitments. My agenda controlled me, and I often longed for a break. “I wish December didn’t exist,” I would mutter. The month seemed more draining than joyful.

Years later, my life looks completely different. I now live in the peaceful French countryside, surrounded by calm. The supermarkets in nearby cities are still filled with luxurious products and holiday chaos, but I avoid them. Instead, I grow my own vegetables, collect fresh eggs from my chickens, and find joy in simple pleasures: painting, reading, crafting, and taking long walks with my dogs. Occasionally, I visit a small local Christmas market, but I’ve left the frenzy behind.

For me, December is now about simplicity. No extravagant six-course dinners or the stress of finding perfect gifts. Instead, I focus on honest food and meaningful conversations. Could I have achieved this simplicity back in the Randstad? Maybe, but I doubt it. Here, I have the space and quiet to consciously choose a simpler, happier way of life.

My wish for you this December: keep it simple. Don’t get swept up in the chaos; focus on what truly matters. Happiness lies in the little things.

My Tips to avoid Christmas stress (and stress in general)

Christmas stress—I know the feeling all too well. For years, I felt like December controlled me, with an overbooked schedule and the pressure to make everyone happy. But one day, I realized things could be different. That moment helped me learn to make more mindful choices and find peace, even during the busy holiday season. Here are my personal tips, based on my own experiences.

1. Say no and plan differently
   You always have a choice—never forget that. I used to feel obligated to say “yes” to everything: that party, that dinner, that gathering. But it only led to chaos. Now, I make a point of saying “no” when something doesn’t fit or planning it for another time. And you know what? Most people completely understand. I’m in charge of my calendar, and that brings so much peace.
2. To-Do Lists are my lifeline
   I love lists. They give me clarity and structure, and I enjoy the satisfaction of crossing things off. Sometimes, I even add something I’ve already done just to check it off—it feels amazing! I also keep my lists on my phone, which makes shopping or errands so much easier.
3. Walking, even in the rain
   Walking is my ultimate stress reliever. I used to make excuses when the weather was cold or wet, but now I put on the right clothes and go anyway. My dogs love it, and I always feel better afterward. Fresh air works wonders, even when the sky is gray.
4. Mindful eating
   Since I started growing my own vegetables and fruit, my relationship with food has completely transformed. The process of planting, growing, and harvesting brings me so much joy. When I cook, I do it with care—no pre-packaged shortcuts, just pure ingredients from my garden. During the holidays, I like to make it extra special with beautiful vintage dishes I find at thrift shops. It adds a charming touch without breaking the bank.
5. Thoughtful gifts, not expensive ones
   I’m a fan of homemade gifts or small, thoughtful finds from thrift stores. It’s the thought that counts, not the price tag. A personal gift, chosen with care, means so much more than something big or flashy. I love giving small presents that truly match someone’s personality.
6. Choose the right people
   I’ve learned to surround myself with people who genuinely care about me—those who accept me as I am, even when I’m tired or need space. It makes such a difference. With the right people, December no longer feels like a burden but like a warm, welcoming time.

These are the things that help me keep December—and every month—simpler and happier. I hope my tips inspire you to enjoy the holidays more mindfully and stress-free. Wishing you a simple and joyful holiday season!